So how can you find your very own unicorn? Your swinging lifestyle guides are here to help! First, ask yourself why you want a threesome instead of a couple swap. Threesomes tend not to be simpler or easy. It can be hard to balance the desires of three different people. When two couples swap, it tends to be easier since everyone is paired up and it is less likely that someone will feel left out.

But believe it or not, it can, and there are more couples interested in doing it than you may realize. Below, four women get real about what their own swinging experiences were really like. Remember that before you take the plunge on some new sexual activity, you and your partner want to talk things out and make sure you both feel emotionally and physically safe to move forward! My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club. Not all experiences were percent pleasurable, so we made an effort to have those conversations and keep the lines of communication open. When you talk about [swinging] it makes it so much easier to discuss other issues in the relationship. Also, you need to have conversations with your spouse or partner before you go into it.

Swinging has always had kind of a gross connotation to it, right? But that perception, like any prejudice, is probably the result of having never actually swung yourself. Still no?

In fact, she and her boyfriend exchange partners. I just love to see that he is enjoying it so much. Some years ago, my boyfriend and I got the idea to swing. We were initially a couple seeking woman for a threesome, but this turned out to be more difficult than we thought. Out of sheer curiosity, my boyfriend and I decided to go to a swingers club.