This article is not meant to be rude or offensive in any way. My aim is to help women have close, committed, deep and passionate relationships. Part of achieving this is helping women understand more about men, what men want and why they want it. Despite this being a sensitive topic, I hope we can all approach it with a little light-heartedness and let us remember that oral sex has been around for many years. I am also not condoning casual sex or being promiscuous.

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As someone who writes about sex for a living, I'm asked about blow jobs all the time. Every mouth is different, every penis is different, every man and woman is different. So it shouldn't surprise anyone that each and every blow job is going to be a different, specific experience too. I can't speak for every guy, but odds are most guys definitely want you to know several things on this list.